Episode 268: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Show Notes

This week, Vicky and Joe abandon the planned podcast and talk about something else instead: the stories we tell ourselves. Why we think and believe what we do, why we make snap judgements that we’re not proud of, how to stay up to date with what’s going on in the world, and how we try to be better people than we were yesterday. There’s a little bit of talk-therapy going on, and a special appearance by Whiskey the little grey cat. Enjoy!

 Key Points

  • [3:00] Vicky and Joe talk about their impression of Nassim Necolas Taleb, the author of the book Antifragile.    
  • [5:15] Vicky sees her parents getting older and having difficulty moving, which makes her strive to get a healthy body.
  • [7:00] Small businesses individually are fragile, because most of them fail. However, the whole small business community is very antifragile because they learn from each other's mistakes.
  • [9:15] Joe talks about her parents being left behind by technology and wonders how difficult it would be for him and his wife Vicky after 40 years.
  • [13:00] Vicky shares the reason why she didn’t have a scale in her house.
  • [14:15] We need to examine how we react to things and the judgments we make.
  • [15:00] Why is diversity training not useful in many cases?
  • [16:00] Vicky is frustrated with how people do not seem to be kind enough to others.
  • [17:30] Misunderstanding feminism prevents us from showing what we really feel. It’s hurting not just one person, but everybody.
  • [19:00] Vicky’s perception of how much a person should weigh is due to how she was raised by her mother.
  • [21:15] It is so hard for people to change their minds in terms of religion or vaccination,because they don’t base it on facts but on beliefs.
  • [23:50] You’ll never achieve your goal by putting limits on yourself to do things subconsciously, and not do the things that need you to get there.
  • [27:40] Always try to be a better human being and be kind.

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